What’s New
Deconstructing Inesita
Sorry for the paucity of news. But there's been no rest, honestly! Following a tracheal shave (Adam's apple reduction) in June, Inesita diversified her exercise regime to improve the waist and butt. She recently picked up a new wig — and completed six days' modelling in August. While trying to find time to get those results online, Inesita also had a little fun at the end of the costume shoot. Normally she wouldn't be seen dead without her wig. However, sometimes there's no other way to get a dress off or on! Hair is such a key part of one's identity, however, once it had occurred, Inesita was bemused by what she saw. Are you? (Oct. 2025)
What's On?
When modelling, it's not only the latest fashions Inesita puts on. So too is the radio. Well, her latest Spotify playlists actually. Dance music has almost always been sexy, romantic, intimate and quite often erotic. And even if 54 is 'over the hill,' modelling is still best when the music belts out. Inspired by its Crazy Catwalk Show of early 2024 by luxury lingerie house, Maison Close, over the last 12 months Inesita curated a handful of five-hour playlists -- plenty for a hedonistic weekend. Curious? Follow the links to The Catwalk Mix, The Chill Mix, The Sequel, Eternity and Mystery! Serenity is under development as I write :-) (Apr. 2025)
Celebrations!
A milestone! The first costume results of four 2024 photoshoots is now online via The Dressing Room. Pictures were taken (now via remote-controlled cellphone) on May 9 and 10. Initially deemed a test run for June, the results were impressive enough to move on to the next 'script.' The only absentee was my trademark nails! In focus were longsleeve and sleeveless jumpers by Etsy-based Bulgarian artisan, 'SelfishStyle.' To access via The Dressing Room, search for 'SelfishStyle' under 'jumpers' or via 'Year/Month' created and '2024.V.' Both day 1 and day 2's 86 costume photos (often two per outfit) are also available as downloadable pdfs. It is the season of goodwill after all! (Dec. 2024)
Just Be
Die Peruecke at the far end of Berlin's Ku'damm is one of my favourite haunts. Last week I dropped off two wigs for some TLC and my appointment looked at me in astonishment. "Mein Gott!" she exclaimed. "Is that really you, the beautiful Inesita? I'd never have recognised you" (I was my male self). Those compliments were worth their weight in gold. On Saturday I returned to collect, this time as Inesita. "Grr," my 'date' growled at my coffin-shaped easy-to-apply red nails from AiN-Katy. "You can be so proud of your transformation," her boss exuded. I almost burst into tears -- after 6500 steps in heels I'd ran close to blistering the soles of my feet and had jumped in a cab to make a footfall-free dash from Alexanderplatz. Germany's capital has the coolest people, while the most curious looks I get is because a girl in heels is such a rarity: it's a safe haven for those wish simply to 'be.' Souvenir photos from that weekend are available here. (Dec. 2024)
Berlin-Malta

Last week Inesita enjoyed a memorable TransGender European Council in Malta, the ninth in the series. As a chance to dress, of course she went through multiple costume changes, most of which can be seen here. Ooh, I love being a girl! Then it was on to Berlin for surgery 'down under', the goal being to ensure there's less to tuck away in the future. (Dec. 2024)
New Look!
Finally out and about with confidence! Seven kilos trimmed and a waistline that's in shape, regular workouts, and monthly facial rejunivations on the go. New make-up to boot and finally a hairpiece that really suits, courtesy of the very same Berlin-based wigstore that so lovingly identified Inésita's 2008-2011 signature look (see the animated images, right). "The world is losing something" I was kindly told when I mentioned it was the first time I was out in broad daylight as Inésita since October 2010. Yet the nerves held firm, as did my heels, long enough for me to rock on to Christin Nichols at the Frannz Klub the next day too :-) (Apr. 2024)
Not the (Wo)man I used to be
Many moons ago my masseuse had said to me, "Oh you shalln't be doing Inésita when you're past 40!" Well, 12 years on I'm giving it another go. Only, when I look in the mirror I'm all too aware that I've probably less than half the life I've lived, left. A grim thought if ever there was one. So if surgery can give me ten years back, on June 26 I shall turn back time... (Mar. 2024)
Necessity is the Mother of (re)Invention

Inésita has resurfaced. Sort of. But it took a return to the KitKatClub in Berlin – and a strict dress code – to pull out the stops. Luckily, she hadn't forgotten how to apply her makeup. This time she sported a wig bought for peanuts via the Facebook marketplace! Sagging facial skin is hidden here by the 'beautify' filter ;-) while scarring from laser-based facial hair remover has worsened (botox then)! But overall, Inésita was elated, eleven years on! Special thanks to MDNT:45 for the wardrobe! (Dec. 2023)
In (and out of) the Closet (with Wish and AliExpress)
News is well overdue, although Inésita (or rather her wardrobe) remains firmly in the closet (actually the attic). That's more or less a voluntary position, having married my ideal in 2012, and in 2017 and 2019, bringing two girls into our world. They occupy almost every minute of our free time. My penchant to cross-dress has been partly absolved: the Missus is my muse (nor does she need hours to plan a look). For now, however, the 'genie' is back in the bottle. But I keep myself at 70kg and the eyebrows plucked, just in case Inésita needs out. (Aug. 2019)
Sea Change
A break from the usual 'Inésita' news. The last
fortnight was spent finishing up the twelfth chapter of a book about my grandmother's time as a 1920s acrobat. Her short biography appears at the page entitled 'Keith's Theatre.' 'Sea Change' covers the tail end of the 'Roaring 20s' including the period from 1928 to 1931, in which Nanny Tyralla and her sister, Margot's, all-girl vaudeville act toured the UK, US, Cuba and Canada before returning to Germany and heading on to the Netherlands. That all occurred either side of the Wall Street Crash, which along with 'Talkies' and the introduction of radio virtually finished off vaudeville (leaving us everything that is 'Hollywood'). The complete chapter is available to interested readers here. Happy New Year all! Read more.. (Jan. 2015)
Back in Business
“18 months offline thanks to ill-communication then cybersquatters.” So read @InesitaDaSilva’s first Tweet. It’s been a long and sometimes frustrating wait having lost the domain after the site’s migration to a new server in spring 2013. Initially the site at www.inesitadasilva.com slipped into a so-called ‘redemption period.' (Oct. 2014)
What Lies Beneath
Astonishingly it's been 15 months since Inésita surfaced. Yet as I get dressed every morning and open her wardrobe door, there are twinges of regret that I am not her more often. Truth be told, I don't have much time for cross-dressing nowadays. What could possibly consign Inésita to the wardrobe? Read more.. (May 2013)
Belgian Diversity Campaign a Step in the Right Direction
In 2002, Charles Anders, published 'The Lazy Crossdresser.' It’s a bible for those who want to cut corners when getting dolled up. However, the concept is one I've struggled with for the best part of my last ten years as Inésita. Why? Because any male-to-female cross-dresser simply cannot afford to be 'lazy' if she wants to 'pass.' Imagine my surprise then when I stepped out of the metro last week in one of Europe’s most diverse cultural melting pots that is Brussels and am struck by a campaign poster in which two of the happiest-looking cross-dressers smile down at me! Read more.. (Nov. 2012)
I ♥ Being A Girl
‘Inspirations’ is a collection of short stories authored by girls and young women intent on challenging stereotypes and achieving their goals. Published earlier in 2012 as an e-book by the International Planned Parenthood Federation (IPPF) through its ‘Girls Decide’ programme, the assemblage was the result of a project and website called ‘I ♥ Being A Girl.’ Inésita’s own story was included based on a piece she originally wrote for a postcard series called 'My World,' reflecting the struggle faced in being a transgender girl within a society where “for a boy to look like a girl is degrading.” Read more.. (Oct. 2012)
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