What’s New

In (and out of) the Closet (with Wish and AliExpress)
News is well overdue from Inésita, although she (or rather her wardrobe) remains firmly in the closet (actually the attic). That's more or less a voluntary position, having married my ideal in 2012, and in 2017 and 2019, adding two more girls to our world. In many respects, I am in my element, surrounded by females. They occupy almost every minute of my free time. My penchant to cross-dress has been partly absolved, especially after installing Wish and AliExpress apps and shopping (on my beloved's behalf) until I dropped in early July. On the downside, we still await some of our cut-price orders, but the Mrs. is good enough to let me satiate my creative needs by modelling what I've bought her and allowing me to snap away too (in the 'old days' I shopped for me and photographed myself). Whether this works out in the longer run, who knows (I still write a book which is another distraction). But at least the wifey doesn't need hours to be feminine (unlike me). Whilst shopping, I even found myself searching Inésita's 'Dressing Room' for an item of clothing I was sure she had. For now, however, the 'genie' is back in the bottle. But I still keep myself at 70kg and my eyebrows plucked, just in case Inésita needs to get out. (Aug. 2019)

Berlin Decadence
A few weeks ago Inésita and partner partied all night at Berlin's infamous KitKatClub and boy, what an experience to remember! We went on a tip from a local and certainly played our part in the CarneBall Bizarre. From the moment we stepped inside we were in seventh heaven. Our interest: the female clientele, and they sure didn’t disappoint. Girls of all ages wore BDSM gear, pvc and leather, pussycat uniforms etc... Read more.. (Jan. 2016)

Sea Change
A break from the usual 'Inésita' news. I've spent the last fortnight finishing up the twelfth chapter of a book I am writing about my grandmother's life as a 1920s acrobat. Her short biography appears at the page entitled 'Keith's Theatre.' 'Sea Change' covers the tail end of the 'Roaring 20s' including the period from 1928 to 1931, in which Nanny Tyralla and her sister, Margot's, all-girl vaudeville act toured the UK, US, Cuba and Canada before returning to Germany and heading on to the Netherlands. That all occurred either side of the Wall Street Crash, which along with 'Talkies' and the introduction of radio virtually finished off vaudeville (leaving us everything that is 'Hollywood'). The complete chapter is available to interested readers here. Happy New Year all! Read more.. (Jan. 2015)

Back in Business
“18 months offline thanks to ill-communication then cybersquatters.” So read @InesitaDaSilva’s first Tweet. It’s been a long and sometimes frustrating wait having being ‘robbed’ of the domain following a communication mix-up over the site’s migration to a new server in spring 2013. Initially the site at www.inesitadasilva.com slipped into a so-called ‘redemption period.' But after the former server manager advised Inésita to let it go rather than share the USD 75 fee to repurchase it, someone else snuck in and claimed the address! Read more.. (Oct. 2014)

What Lies Beneath

Astonishingly it's been 15 months since Inésita surfaced. Yet as I get dressed every morning and open her wardrobe door, there are twinges of regret that I am not her more often. With a sigh of resignation, I content myself with lace or string undies made for men. I still love my kink, just I don't have much time for cross-dressing nowadays. What could possibly consign Inésita to the wardrobe? Read more.. (May 2013)

Belgian Diversity Campaign a Step in the Right Direction
In 2002, Charles Anders, published 'The Lazy Crossdresser.' It’s a bible for those who want to cut corners when getting dolled up. However, the concept is one I've struggled with for the best part of my last ten years as Inésita. Why? Because any male-to-female cross-dresser simply cannot afford to be 'lazy' if she wants to 'pass.' Imagine my surprise then when I stepped out of the metro last week in one of Europe’s most diverse cultural melting pots that is Brussels and am struck by a campaign poster in which two of the happiest-looking cross-dressers smile down at me! Read more.. (Nov. 2012)

I ♥ Being A Girl

‘Inspirations’ is a collection of short stories authored by girls and young women intent on challenging stereotypes and achieving their goals. Published earlier in 2012 as an e-book by the International Planned Parenthood Federation (IPPF) through its ‘Girls Decide’ programme, the assemblage was the result of a project and website called ‘I ♥ Being A Girl.’ Inésita’s own story was included based on a piece she originally wrote for a postcard series called 'My World,' reflecting the struggle faced in being a transgender girl within a society where “for a boy to look like a girl is degrading.” Read more.. (Oct. 2012)

NB: More news is available in the archives